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Film, Power, Music and Myth through the Lens of the Female Villain
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Mirror
Self, The Other and the Shadow
Some stories fascinate you not because they're distant, but because they're familiar. Meghan Markle's story has held my attention for years now, not for the tabloid version of it, but for the pattern underneath it.
Understanding this archetype offers more than insight into attraction. It offers a blueprint for authority over your own life. It reveals how presence, self-awareness, and emotional depth shape the way the world responds to you.
I was watching an interview with Olympic champion Eileen Gu, and what struck me first wasn’t just her achievements. It was the way she spoke about her own mind.
The Fire Horse year walks differently. You can feel it already, even if you cannot name it. Conversations are faster. Decisions are sharper. The air tastes electric. What used to wait is now moving. What used to hide is asking for light.
Blueprint
Perception, Purpose and Paradigms
A lot of becoming is editing.
Some things in your life are there because you chose them. Others are there because you never removed them.
Habits. Roles. Goals. Obligations. Old ideas about who you are.
And everything you keep has a maintenance cost.
So maybe the question is not only, “Does this still fit me?”
Maybe it is:
Do I still want to maintain this?
There is a place where the world thins.
Where ice becomes a doorway.
I’ve stepped through it more than once.
Each time, I lose something.
Each time, I remember something else.
They told me who I was.
But the further I move between worlds…
the less that version of me holds.
However, manifesting a woman and becoming the man who can sustain her require two entirely different forms of energy. One is driven by desire, the other requires discipline, self-awareness, and identity work.
Beneath all the noise, every woman has her own rhythm. A natural way of moving through life, creating, resting, connecting, and expressing herself. When we begin to notice that rhythm and trust it, something shifts. Life starts to feel more honest, more spacious, and more aligned with who we truly are.
At Haus of Healing we call this process Becoming HER.
Becoming HER is not about turning into someone else or chasing an ideal version of yourself. It’s about returning to the woman you already are beneath the noise. The woman who knows her own timing, trusts her instincts, and moves through life in a way that feels natural and true.
Mirror
Self, The Other and the Shadow
Some changes you choose. Some changes choose you.
A breakup. A burnout. A loss. A new chapter where your old strengths suddenly don't work anymore.
I went back to one of the oldest stories in the world to understand what it means to go down, and to come back up wiser.
It turned into seven gates, with questions that are simple to read and not so simple to answer.
Which one will you stop at?
"Becoming HER: The Descent and Return of Inanna" is now on iloveinspiration.nl
Hekate is one of the most mysterious and powerful goddesses from the ancient Greek world, a figure deeply connected to crossroads, the unseen, magic, the dead, and the spaces in between one life chapter and the next.
When you begin to look at trees as elders, everything changes. An elder carries time. An elder holds memory. An elder understands cycles. Trees embody all three qualities. Their trunks carry the story of storms, droughts, rain, and sunlight. Their branches have welcomed birds, insects, and animals for decades, sometimes centuries. They have watched generations of humans walk beneath them without ever needing to move from their place. When you stand beside a tree, you stand beside a witness of life.
Many people reduce Oshun to beauty, seduction, or love rituals. They see gold, honey, sensuality, and softness and stop there. But Oshun has never been a surface goddess. She is depth disguised as ease. When you truly study her, when you feel her energy rather than consume her image, you realize her power runs far deeper than looks.
This is a journey into forgotten herstory, which uncovers how female power was systematically erased and why reclaiming it matters now.
Some beings are not of this world, yet choose to live among us. Cats are one of them. Their presence carries mystery, the kind you don’t explain but feel. They move like smoke and silence, slipping through shadows and slipping back with secrets. One second you look at a cat across the room, you blink once and the cat is on the other side of the room. From ancient temples to modern living rooms, cats have always been more than pets.
Bloodline
Myth, Ancestry & Sacred Lineage
A woman becomes a performance that must keep winning, because the moment she stops performing, the room changes temperature. The love feels conditional. The admiration becomes fragile. The relationship begins to feel like an audition where the role is “easy.” What Bogutskaya helps name, without asking for permission, is that many “unlikable” women are simply women who are done paying that price.
The recent documentary produced by 50 Cent didn’t just revisit the rise and fall of a cultural icon. It pulled back a curtain many of us didn’t even realize we were staring at for decades. Watching it, I was reminded of The Wizard of Oz , not because of villains or heroes, but because of illusion. Smoke. Sound.
In Heroes, much of the story revolves around DNA and evolution. The idea is that human beings are coded for more, and one day, those hidden codes “switch on.” For me, watching the show felt like remembering something I already knew. It was as if my own DNA was whispering:
You too have gifts. Pay attention.
The Marvel Universe has always fascinated me, not only for its dazzling visuals or complex characters, but for the deeper truths hidden beneath the action. Every hero’s journey in Marvel is, at its core, a spiritual awakening. Whether it’s Black Panther connecting to his ancestral realm, Wanda Maxim off learning to face the chaos within, or Doctor Strange surrendering to the unknown, these stories speak to something timeless: the remembrance of the supernatural self.
Gaze
Screen, Story & Symbolism
Music is not background noise. Music is a doorway. A song can shift the air in a room and shift the air inside you. It can change the way you breathe. It can soften your shoulders, straighten your spine, and lift your eyes. It can move you from doubt to decision in under three minutes. It can pull you from numbness back into life before the chorus even lands. That is the power of music. It moves you. And what moves you, changes you.
It was 1984. When Doves Cry poured out of the radio.
I was ten years young. A distorted guitar tore straight through my spine; my ears woke up instantly. A hypnotizing drum sound dropped and knocked on my heart, while the guitar kept shredding, then it cut to a hard halt and went on in the background. An eerie voice let out strange, otherworldly sounds. A synthesizer played an East-Asian sounding melody, and then his low voice slid in: “Dig if you will the picture... of you and I engaged in a kiss.” I became a fan on the intro alone, but his voice sealed it. It was my first eargasm.
She wasn’t just singing lyrics. She was speaking in frequency. She was talking about concepts I had never heard before, but somehow, I recognized them. Not with my mind, with my spirit. I wanted to know more. Who was this wise woman who overstood dimensions? Who moved like she had lived many lives?
I have always believed that music must have a purpose — to heal, to shift consciousness, to awaken something in us. Vibrations and words are not just sound — they are magic, and that is something sacred.
Artists who honor that truth are more than performers. They are earth angels, healers, and messengers. They understand their assignment: to guide us, to remind us, to call us back to ourselves.
This blog is both my reflection today and a continuation of what my dear friend Grace Wong-Si-Kwie wrote for iloveinspiration.nl back in 2018, when APESHT* first shook the culture. Her words captured the urgency of that moment. Mine carry it forward into a divine frequency.
When Gaga says she “blacks out” during performance, what she’s really describing is channeling. In mysticism and performance art, there is a state where the ego dissolves and Spirit takes over.
Blues was his altar. The guitar his offering. And the crossroads? His sacred meeting place between shadow and light..
Being raised in a predominantly Caucasian environment, I didn’t always see myself reflected in the world around me. But I found mirrors in music
Frequency
The soul knows the sound
Walk into any home and you feel something before you see anything. A mood. A vibe. A presence. Your home is a mirror of your identity, your emotional world, your values, and your future. Your home can either anchor you to old versions of yourself… or guide you into the person you are becoming.
Refused anything that made a woman feel like a costume. This was her Pisces Moon softening the edges of the world. And her Sagittarius Ascendant giving her the wild courage to go against every rulebook. But what truly moved her design language wasn’t trend — It was destiny.
When I stumbled upon Dior’s Spring/Summer 2021 Haute Couture campaign, it felt like I had just opened a portal. The atmosphere was heavy with meaning. Symbols danced in low light.
The soul of a home is shaped by those who have passed through it, by the land it rests upon, by the very materials that give it form, and it has things to say.
This Ralph Lauren campaign, set in Martha’s Vineyard’s historic Oak Bluffs, wasn’t just fashion. It was legacy. It was softness. It was a visual remembrance of Black wealth, community, and generational ease, a reality too often erased from public narratives.
When you start dressing intentionally — aligning your style with your Sun, Rising, Venus, and Mars signs — you don’t just change how you look, you change how you move, how you attract, and how you manifest.